Becoming part of the solution

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There exists a universal phenomenon, one often encountered but seldom understood: judgment. It is an innate reflex, an impulse hardwired into our human nature, forever prompting us to assess and evaluate others based on our own subjective lens. In essence, judgment is a self-centered endeavour, one that casts the world as a mere reflection of ourselves. However, it is in this very self-absorption that the essence of human interaction lies—our capacity to discern the true nature of others and, ultimately, of ourselves.

To truly comprehend and navigate the labyrinthine intricacies of human relationships, we must embark on a journey of self-awareness and growth, transcending the tendency to judge and instead embracing a more compassionate perspective. The sage advice that guides us on this quest is to be understanding and to allow individuals to exhibit their flaws, for this is where they reside. It is in the acknowledgment of these imperfections that we cease to perceive them as defects and instead recognise them for what they are—simply who they are.

In our quest for understanding, we often encounter a scenario that highlights the absurdity of labeling others as “defective.” We observe children, whose behaviour is marked by self-centeredness, yet we never label them as defective. Instead, we accept them for what they are—children. Their self-centeredness is inherent to their nature, and we understand that they will ideally grow out of it as they mature. This fundamental perspective allows us to approach children’s mistakes with a nurturing and positive attitude.

In this respect, adults are not fundamentally different from children. Just as we provide guidance and support for children, we should extend the same positive approach to our interactions with other adults. In contrast to resorting to negative judgments and criticism, we can foster growth by engaging in constructive and affirmative interactions. Negative judgments serve only to teach individuals how to evade criticism, rather than aiding in their personal development. Consequently, it is the positive approach that bears fruit, offering individuals the opportunity to evolve and learn from their experiences.

However, this vital insight does not come without its challenges, even for those we admire most. Public figures, including spiritual leaders like the Dalai Lama, face immense scrutiny and the constant burden of being role models. Their every action and utterance is exposed to the unforgiving eyes of the public, rendering them constantly aware of the PR implications of their every move. This obligation hinders their ability to be their authentic selves and, in turn, limits their effectiveness as role models.

The burden of constant observation and the fear of judgment are not unique to public figures. In their own spheres, ordinary individuals face similar challenges in navigating the nuances of human interaction. The fear of being judged and criticised can hinder personal growth and authenticity. It is an unfortunate reality that we often undermine the very people who inspire us most by subjecting them to relentless scrutiny.

Nevertheless, this is the way of the world, and change does not occur overnight. It is the human condition to be judgmental, but it is also within our capacity to grow beyond it. In our quest for self-awareness and authentic human interaction, we must continually strive to rise above our judgmental tendencies. To do so is to recognise that we all possess flaws, and it is through understanding and acceptance that we foster an environment for growth, both in ourselves and in those around us. It may be a daunting journey, but it is one that, with time and effort, leads to greater compassion and a more authentic way of being.

Written by Stephen Griffin & ChatGPT